Recovery is a journey, not an event. The choice of giving up drugs or alcohol is the first step to recovery. Simply giving up a substance is a courageous step in the right direction, but it may not be enough to set everything right in life. Many people turn to addiction because living sober is difficult, so when they give up substance abuse, their difficulties are still waiting for them. Finding happiness without the crutch of addiction will take time, but it’s well worth it.
Recovery happens in stages, and each person travels his own path. Some stages of recovery include acknowledging he has a problem with substance abuse and becomes willing to change. He will look for a rehabilitation center and take action to end his addiction. He may go through withdrawals, and begin to learn about life without drugs or alcohol. He will practice recovery maintenance, meaning he’ll start working the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous with a sponsor and attend meetings regularly. After two years, he’ll enter advanced recovery, which means he’ll find the rhythm of living a sober life. After living in a rhythm for a while, he will find peace most of the time, even through difficult situations.
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The journey of recovery is never over, it just gets easier with time and support of people who share the same goals of sobriety. Learning to live life on life’s terms is a wonderful gift. Living life in the moment, and not panicking about the future or regretting the past is freeing. Constantly fretting about the future can lead to dissatisfaction, and he’ll miss all the fun things happening around him right now.
Achieving emotional sobriety is also very important. Now that the drugs and alcohol have left the system, many feelings surface. He will learn to become a positive thinker, and be less stressed. He won’t fear life anymore, and can develop deeper relationships with people. Emotional sobriety doesn’t happen immediately, it takes time and practice. It will be challenging, but these challenges lead to growth and self-esteem. Knowing that he can deal with anything life throws at him with grace and dignity will give him confidence to face the next challenge.
Challenges in recovery are opportunities for growth and development. Many people dread challenges and view them negatively, but dealing with difficult situations lead to new coping strategies. Each strategy is a new tool. In time, the tool box will be full, and when faced with hardship, he can open his tool box and take one he needs. He carries this tool box with him wherever he goes, and is always prepared for anything that comes his way. He used to only have one tool for coping, addiction. Now, he has an entire box of tools at his disposal.
Recovery in an ongoing process that requires diligence and commitment. Living a sober life is freeing and full of happiness. Here at our Florida drug rehab center, we help you face challenges with courage and self-esteem through our holistic drug rehab program as well as a chemical dependency program. Recovery is the opportunity for peace and courage.
Striving for perfection is dangerous in recovery. Having unrealistically high expectations sets people up for disappointments. They may develop an all or nothing approach, meaning they will end up with nothing. It’s important to learn to be grateful for all the wonderful things in life instead of focusing on things they don’t have.
Perfectionistic people are excessively concerned about other peoples appraisals, are overly critical of their performance, strive for flawlessness, and set unrealistically high performance standards for themselves. People who focus on being perfect are never happy with their progress, it’s never good enough.
The dangers of being a perfectionist include pushing themselves too hard, so they end up exhausted. They will never be satisfied with their performance, so they won’t reap the rewards of a job well done. People who have expectations of themselves which are too high tend to have negative stress and negative thinking. They may expect others to be perfect, which can lead to resentment because people are not perfect. They might think, “I work so hard, they don’t put half the effort I do. They don’t care as much as I do.”
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Many who give up drugs or alcohol return to being perfectionists. They always been perfectionistic, but turned to addiction to relieve themselves from their sense of failure from not living up to their own standards. Being “perfect” in recovery can sabotage their efforts.
Putting excessive demands on themselves leads to failure and possible relapse. They may even use the idea they failed to return to drugs or alcohol. People in recovery should wear their 12 Step Program like a loose garment and strive for progress, not perfection. Developing an attitude of gratitude for the good things they have in life is helpful. Understanding that it’s okay for goals to shift or change is important. Keeping an even head and understanding that they aren’t always in control is crucial. Putting sobriety first helps set the tone for the day. Expecting family and friends to trust and forgive them immediately may not be realistic. It takes time to rebuild trust, but it can absolutely happen. Here at our Florida addiction rehab, we have a family care program that helps the entire family cope with the disease of addiction.
Being a perfectionist isn’t always a bad thing. People with perfectionistic qualities work very hard and are successful. The dangers come when they constantly feel like they are failing, and not enjoying their achievements. It’s important to recognize when they have done a good job. We offer help here at Synergy Group Services through a chemical dependency program as well as a specialized holistic drug rehab program. We understand the many facets of addiction and can help you find recovery.