People can sabotage themselves from not doing things, or procrastinating, especially in recovery. In order to maintain sobriety, we have to be active in our recovery. If we become lazy and complacent, our sobriety can become compromised, and the danger of relapsing is just around the corner.
There are many reasons we justify our procrastination. Some people believe they work better under pressure, so they will leave their work to the last minute. They can tell themselves they will be able to complete the task in a few minutes, so they can put it off for later.
Some people want to rebel against an authority figure who asks them to complete a task by a certain time. Others will find more fun things to do with their time rather than complete something important. There are a million reasons people can tell themselves it’s ok to wait.
When we are in a program of recovery, action is the most important thing we can do. Whether it’s taking action by going to meetings, picking up the phone to talk to your sponsor, sponsee, or friend, committing to a position in a meeting (like secretary, chip person, treasurer, coffee person, etc.), sharing in an AA meeting, working the 12 Steps, journaling, exercising, or meditating. These are all important actions in recovery.
Taking contrary action is also important. This is an action I need to work on for my own recovery. Recently my feelings were hurt by a group of friends. I felt alone and taken advantage of. At first, I started to isolate, a bad behavior I have always fallen back on.
I shared at an AA meeting about being aware of my behavior, and others shared about taking contrary action. I didn’t feel like going out and taking my kids to the pool, but I did anyway. I didn’t feel like calling someone who hurt my feelings, but I did anyway. I didn’t feel like sharing my insecurities with a trusted friends, but I did anyway. Because I did all of this, I began to heal.
I didn’t feel so angry and hurt anymore, sharing my feelings took the power out of it. I climbed out of my isolation and have felt much better about myself.
A while ago, I would have turned to alcohol to make me feel better, even though drinking would have caused me much more pain. I’m learning that procrastination can take me out of my sobriety. If I don’t take action, I’m moving backwards. I start engaging in my old, familiar, self-destructive ways.
Before I got sober it would have taken months for me to come out of my isolation. Taking action is so much better. I feel happiness and joy in my life instead of pain and resentment. If you are struggling with substance abuse, checking into our Florida based recovery facility is the most important action you can take. Our qualified staff will help you achieve a long-term clean and sober life.