People can sabotage themselves from not doing things, or procrastinating, especially in recovery. In order to maintain sobriety, we have to be active in our recovery. If we become lazy and complacent, our sobriety can become compromised, and the danger of relapsing is just around the corner.
There are many reasons we justify our procrastination. Some people believe they work better under pressure, so they will leave their work to the last minute. They can tell themselves they will be able to complete the task in a few minutes, so they can put it off for later.
Some people want to rebel against an authority figure who asks them to complete a task by a certain time. Others will find more fun things to do with their time rather than complete something important. There are a million reasons people can tell themselves it’s ok to wait.
When we are in a program of recovery, action is the most important thing we can do. Whether it’s taking action by going to meetings, picking up the phone to talk to your sponsor, sponsee, or friend, committing to a position in a meeting (like secretary, chip person, treasurer, coffee person, etc.), sharing in an AA meeting, working the 12 Steps, journaling, exercising, or meditating. These are all important actions in recovery.
Taking contrary action is also important. This is an action I need to work on for my own recovery. Recently my feelings were hurt by a group of friends. I felt alone and taken advantage of. At first, I started to isolate, a bad behavior I have always fallen back on.
I shared at an AA meeting about being aware of my behavior, and others shared about taking contrary action. I didn’t feel like going out and taking my kids to the pool, but I did anyway. I didn’t feel like calling someone who hurt my feelings, but I did anyway. I didn’t feel like sharing my insecurities with a trusted friends, but I did anyway. Because I did all of this, I began to heal.
I didn’t feel so angry and hurt anymore, sharing my feelings took the power out of it. I climbed out of my isolation and have felt much better about myself.
A while ago, I would have turned to alcohol to make me feel better, even though drinking would have caused me much more pain. I’m learning that procrastination can take me out of my sobriety. If I don’t take action, I’m moving backwards. I start engaging in my old, familiar, self-destructive ways.
Before I got sober it would have taken months for me to come out of my isolation. Taking action is so much better. I feel happiness and joy in my life instead of pain and resentment. If you are struggling with substance abuse, checking into our Florida based recovery facility is the most important action you can take. Our qualified staff will help you achieve a long-term clean and sober life.
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Sometimes in AA meetings, we hear, “don’t quit before the miracle happens.” Entering a life of sobriety isn’t always going to be a walk in the park. It takes hard work, change, and discipline. It also takes a lot of courage, growing up, and learning how to make good choices. These skills take time to learn, but it’s well worth the effort.
Learning how to live a happy life free from addiction is a miracle, but it takes a little time to see the world through a new pair of eyes. We learn a lot of new information when we first become sober, so give it a while to sink in. It might not make sense right away, but that doesn’t mean it won’t click later.
Change takes time and patience, and living a healthy life free from the chains of addiction is a wonderful change. Putting down the drink or drug is the first step towards a new life, but a new life won’t happen immediately. We have to work for it.
If you put time and real effort into your recovery, you will see the miracles come to fruition in your life. You will gain self-esteem, trust, peace, and independence.
Sometimes you might feel frustrated, and wonder why things are not improving in your life as quickly as you want them. When these feeling arise, don’t turn back to addiction. Think about all the reasons you became sober in the first place.
If you turn back to substance abuse, you will waste everything you are working hard to achieve. More problems will arise if you pick up drugs or alcohol. Health, legal, and relationship problems are a constant threat when you’re using.
It took about six months for me to start seeing improvement in my sober life. When I stopped drinking, my life didn’t click into place instantly, I had to work for it. I had to go to meetings, get a sponsor, work the steps, and start listening to people with more time in sobriety than I had. I needed to open my mind and my heart to the possibility that I didn’t have all the answers. When I put effort and love into myself and my program, miracles started to happen.
People started trusting me. My kids, spouse, and I were much happier. I was able to start my own business, and become an active member of my community. I was there when my family and friends needed me. I stopped beating myself up everyday, and learned how to deal with negative emotions in a constructive manner.
If you want your life to improve without the crutch of drugs or alcohol, our Florida based holistic treatment program is a wonderful place to start. We have specialized treatment plans designed to help each individual person. Our caring and professional staff will teach you the tools necessary to live a new healthy life free from addiction.
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Negative people in recovery can take a lot out of us. If a newly sober person spends too much time around negative people, it can be hazardous to his sobriety.
There are many characteristics of negative people, one of them is to constantly criticize other people as well as the world. They can be passive aggressive or openly aggressive. Sometimes negative people are also angry and blame others. They are distrustful, pessimistic, and create drama for no reason. They enjoy pulling apart the achievements of others and resent other peoples successes. Many negative people are also self-centered.
Negativity can increase the chances of relapse. If a person in recovery has a negative outlook on life, it will lead to “stinking thinking.” This is a dangerous mindset because it may prevent him from welcoming new information. It can also lead to a negative self fulfilling prophecy. When he predicts bad things will happen, it may actually lead to it coming true. Negativity sucks the joy out of sobriety, and he may become a dry drunk. This is when a person no longer drinks, but still acts like an alcoholic or addict. The same bad behaviors are still present.
It’s important to move away from negativity within yourself, but it’s equally important to move away from negative people in your life. Spending too much time with a negative person is draining. Negativity can also spread like a cancer, it’s particularly dangerous for a person in early sobriety because you are more vulnerable. Negative people can be overly critical, and they can lower the self-esteem of those around them. Many people in early recovery are already dealing with low self-esteem, so further criticism can be dangerous. Negative people are not capable of offering support, so they cannot be trusted with your recovery.
If you have to be around a negative person, don’t join them in their critical opinions of people or the world. Try to keep the conversation light, if they begin making negative comments, try to change the subject. Try making positive statements, this may impact your conversation for the better. Sometimes not listening to negativity can save you from being pulled down. Think about the saying, “in one ear, out the other.” Or let it roll off you “like water off a ducks back.” Don’t let negativity poison you, shield yourself from it.
Negative people are not bad people, they are just dealing with their own demons. They may have suffered from trauma, or depression. If you need to disengage from a negative person, it’s best to do so with compassion.
Entering our holistic drug and alcohol rehabilitation center is a great place to learn new coping strategies for dealing with life. There will always be negativity in life, and learning how to effectively deal with hard issues is what we teach here at our Florida based drug rehab facility. When you learn new coping strategies, protecting your sobriety is much easier.
The adage that “addiction does not discriminate” rings true when we contrast addicts depicted in popular shows like Breaking Bad with others like Betty Ford. Addiction impacts everyone from the underprivileged to those in office.
We are reminded of that recently by following State Rep. Martin Walsh, the Bostonian with 18 years of sobriety who is bidding for mayor. Just as Betty Ford leveraged her recovery to encourage people to be open about addiction and seek help, Walsh is leveraging his past by saying, “Being in recovery is going to make me a better mayor…It gives me that edge every day when I get up and go out the door.”
We speculate that Walsh considers recovery an asset because it is not just about putting down the drugs and alcohol – it runs deep into the core of who people are in their everyday lives. Those that have a good program of recovery often harness spiritual principals to be better people. For example, honesty, loyalty, discipline and integrity shield people against negative and dramatic situations. In other words, spiritual principals are part of recovery because they protect addicts from the things that make them want to drink and use. These principals are also the same that make people good, desirable people – whether they are mothers, fathers, teachers or city leaders.
Being in recovery also makes people feel good because it is about being of service to others, as Walsh is. The Boston Globe said, “many more know the Dorchester lawmaker’s reputation as the go-to politician for addicts in desperate need of a treatment program or detox bed.” However, Walsh asserts “I don’t contact the people I’ve reached out to and helped.” But it turns out he hasn’t needed to – people remember those that have helped them through difficult situations and Walsh has ample support.
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Here at Synergy Group Services we quote on our website and to our clients “we have been there as a family, now let us help you with yours.” We stress this point because we believe that our experiences and our trials and tribulations in overcoming addiction in our family systems, has given us credence to help others at our Florida addiction treatment center.
Many of us have leveraged our experiences as motivations to get professional credentials in the field of addiction treatment. On staff we have medical doctors, social workers, dieticians, therapists and acupuncturists and other specialists. The combination of personal experience with professional training makes us excellent at what we do.
We are able to relate to your experiences – whether it is related to trauma, depression, anxiety, isolation, secrecy, dishonesty, guilt or shame and are able to provide you with solutions and tools to overcome the pain associated with those experiences. It is because we have shared and overcome the toughest of experiences that we have the passion to help others through it.
This passion is evident in any warrior who has overcome a great feat – and this was largely evident in those who went to help the Boston bombing victims. Groups of war amputees visited several Boston hospitals to share their experience, strength and hope with those who had just lost limbs. No matter what they were told about the utility of prosthetics, the Boston bombing victims needed to hear it from those who were just like them. No one is better suited to help another that one who has gone through what the other is going through. This picture tweeted by Boston Medical Center with the caption “on their way to meet with patients and their families” reflects that service:
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These veteran amputees are best suited to help victims that lost their limbs just as cancer survivors are best suited to help other cancer patients and those recovering from addiction themselves or in their family are best suited to help those suffering from addiction.