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Sometimes in AA meetings, we hear, “don’t quit before the miracle happens.” Entering a life of sobriety isn’t always going to be a walk in the park. It takes hard work, change, and discipline. It also takes a lot of courage, growing up, and learning how to make good choices. These skills take time to learn, but it’s well worth the effort.
Learning how to live a happy life free from addiction is a miracle, but it takes a little time to see the world through a new pair of eyes. We learn a lot of new information when we first become sober, so give it a while to sink in. It might not make sense right away, but that doesn’t mean it won’t click later.
Change takes time and patience, and living a healthy life free from the chains of addiction is a wonderful change. Putting down the drink or drug is the first step towards a new life, but a new life won’t happen immediately. We have to work for it.
If you put time and real effort into your recovery, you will see the miracles come to fruition in your life. You will gain self-esteem, trust, peace, and independence.
Sometimes you might feel frustrated, and wonder why things are not improving in your life as quickly as you want them. When these feeling arise, don’t turn back to addiction. Think about all the reasons you became sober in the first place.
If you turn back to substance abuse, you will waste everything you are working hard to achieve. More problems will arise if you pick up drugs or alcohol. Health, legal, and relationship problems are a constant threat when you’re using.
It took about six months for me to start seeing improvement in my sober life. When I stopped drinking, my life didn’t click into place instantly, I had to work for it. I had to go to meetings, get a sponsor, work the steps, and start listening to people with more time in sobriety than I had. I needed to open my mind and my heart to the possibility that I didn’t have all the answers. When I put effort and love into myself and my program, miracles started to happen.
People started trusting me. My kids, spouse, and I were much happier. I was able to start my own business, and become an active member of my community. I was there when my family and friends needed me. I stopped beating myself up everyday, and learned how to deal with negative emotions in a constructive manner.
If you want your life to improve without the crutch of drugs or alcohol, our Florida based holistic treatment program is a wonderful place to start. We have specialized treatment plans designed to help each individual person. Our caring and professional staff will teach you the tools necessary to live a new healthy life free from addiction.
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Negative people in recovery can take a lot out of us. If a newly sober person spends too much time around negative people, it can be hazardous to his sobriety.
There are many characteristics of negative people, one of them is to constantly criticize other people as well as the world. They can be passive aggressive or openly aggressive. Sometimes negative people are also angry and blame others. They are distrustful, pessimistic, and create drama for no reason. They enjoy pulling apart the achievements of others and resent other peoples successes. Many negative people are also self-centered.
Negativity can increase the chances of relapse. If a person in recovery has a negative outlook on life, it will lead to “stinking thinking.” This is a dangerous mindset because it may prevent him from welcoming new information. It can also lead to a negative self fulfilling prophecy. When he predicts bad things will happen, it may actually lead to it coming true. Negativity sucks the joy out of sobriety, and he may become a dry drunk. This is when a person no longer drinks, but still acts like an alcoholic or addict. The same bad behaviors are still present.
It’s important to move away from negativity within yourself, but it’s equally important to move away from negative people in your life. Spending too much time with a negative person is draining. Negativity can also spread like a cancer, it’s particularly dangerous for a person in early sobriety because you are more vulnerable. Negative people can be overly critical, and they can lower the self-esteem of those around them. Many people in early recovery are already dealing with low self-esteem, so further criticism can be dangerous. Negative people are not capable of offering support, so they cannot be trusted with your recovery.
If you have to be around a negative person, don’t join them in their critical opinions of people or the world. Try to keep the conversation light, if they begin making negative comments, try to change the subject. Try making positive statements, this may impact your conversation for the better. Sometimes not listening to negativity can save you from being pulled down. Think about the saying, “in one ear, out the other.” Or let it roll off you “like water off a ducks back.” Don’t let negativity poison you, shield yourself from it.
Negative people are not bad people, they are just dealing with their own demons. They may have suffered from trauma, or depression. If you need to disengage from a negative person, it’s best to do so with compassion.
Entering our holistic drug and alcohol rehabilitation center is a great place to learn new coping strategies for dealing with life. There will always be negativity in life, and learning how to effectively deal with hard issues is what we teach here at our Florida based drug rehab facility. When you learn new coping strategies, protecting your sobriety is much easier.
The one thing that is heard over and over from people with an addiction is that beginning at a young age they never felt like they fit in. They describe it as “not feeling comfortable in one’s own skin”
As a result of feeling like an outsider these individuals suffer from very low self-esteem. They begin to use alcohol and drugs as a way to cope with the fact that they do not feel good about themselves.
Many people admit to using drugs and alcohol at a young age to help them feel more comfortable in social situations. Many report that using drugs and alcohol in social situations can make them feel more confident. Some find themselves to be more outgoing and report that using substances allows them to be more assertive when it comes to approaching members of the opposite sex.
Increasing one’s self-esteem is a key component in the recovery process. Individuals need to get to a place where they become comfortable with who they really are without the use of substances. Most addicts have many things during the course of their addiction that they are ashamed of. This shame and guilt does not help the negative self-image that they already have about themselves.
Can you relate to “not feeling comfortable in your own skin”? do you use drugs or alcohol to feel more comfortable in social situations? If so, tell use about it.