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Working The Steps

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When I decided to stop drinking, I knew there were certain steps I had to take to ensure my sobriety. The first step for me was to enter a drug and alcohol rehab where I learned many life-saving tools.

When I completed my stay, I was told to get a sponsor and work the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous.

I was afraid to get a sponsor when I got out, so I never asked anyone for help. Three months later, I relapsed.

After my dangerous and terrible relapse, I finally called someone I looked up to at an AA meeting to be my sponsor.

I started working the 12 Steps immediately, and it brought a sense of peace into my life. I was able to talk to someone who already walked the path I’m walking right now.

I take great comfort in knowing my sponsor has dealt with many issues, feelings, and events that I’m currently dealing with.

When I work the steps with my sponsor, I feel a deeper connection to myself and to the world. I don’t feel alone, scared, and guilty.

Working the steps is cathartic to me. I write my thoughts and feelings on paper, share what’s going on in my life, and talk about my issues.

Sometimes when I feel like my life is spiraling out of control, I call my sponsor to bring me back to reality.

I understand why the steps are written the way they are, because each step builds on each other. I can’t skip around because it won’t make sense.

I know that if I put hard work into the program I’m working, I will see rewards, and I have. My life is a million times better than it was when I drank.

I know how to deal with issues in life with grace, dignity, and a backbone. I don’t have to crawl into a dark corner and drink myself into oblivion.

I’m grateful I found a sponsor I can trust who leads me through the 12 Steps with care. I know that I can face any problems in my life without the crutch of alcohol.

If you have a problem with substance abuse, our Florida based drug and alcohol rehabilitation center can help. We offer specialized treatment programs to every client who stays with us.

Finding Serenity

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When I thought of serenity, I thought of total peace, a world with no worries, and complete happiness.

Now I realize that serenity is being able to walk through challenges in life with grace and dignity. I don’t have to pick up a drink because the road is rough. I don’t have to apologize to anyone for my behavior. I don’t have to live in fear of my actions when I was drunk.

No one’s life is completely care-free. Everyone in life has to face hard times. It’s the way we face them that brings about serenity.

I know I won’t be happy all of the time, it’s not realistic. However, I have found inner strength and peace in hard times. To me, this is serenity.

When I decided to become sober, I had no serenity in my life. I was living in constant fear, keeping secrets, and always worried that someone would find out that I was drinking.

When I drank, I blacked out, and didn’t remember who I talked to, if I called someone, and what I said.

It took me a long time to find some peace in my life. For the first year of my sobriety, I was anxious and worried a lot. I went through the entire spectrum of emotions from sadness, anger, humiliation, self-hate, regret, and fear, to acceptance, forgiveness, and eventually love, and peace.

Many times I would talk about the past, and dwell on certain issues. My sponsor always said, “you wouldn’t walk into a store and ask for a calendar from 1996 would you? As far as I’m concerned, it’s all in the past.” These brilliant words of wisdom lead me out of some of my darkest moments in my early sobriety.

If I didn’t have a wise sponsor, I probably would have fallen into a pit of self-pity and eventually turn back to drinking. Now I can live my life free from alcohol, knowing that I can face any problem without a drink.

I have never experienced such profound serenity as I do now. If you are ready to walk through life without the crutch of substances, our Florida-based treatment center can help. We offer specialized programs tailored to fit each person’s individual needs.

Procrastination and Recovery

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People can sabotage themselves from not doing things, or procrastinating, especially in recovery. In order to maintain sobriety, we have to be active in our recovery. If we become lazy and complacent, our sobriety can become compromised, and the danger of relapsing is just around the corner.

There are many reasons we justify our procrastination. Some people believe they work better under pressure, so they will leave their work to the last minute. They can tell themselves they will be able to complete the task in a few minutes, so they can put it off for later.

Some people want to rebel against an authority figure who asks them to complete a task by a certain time. Others will find more fun things to do with their time rather than complete something important. There are a million reasons people can tell themselves it’s ok to wait.

When we are in a program of recovery, action is the most important thing we can do. Whether it’s taking action by going to meetings, picking up the phone to talk to your sponsor, sponsee, or friend, committing to a position in a meeting (like secretary, chip person, treasurer, coffee person, etc.), sharing in an AA meeting, working the 12 Steps, journaling, exercising, or meditating. These are all important actions in recovery.

Taking contrary action is also important. This is an action I need to work on for my own recovery. Recently my feelings were hurt by a group of friends. I felt alone and taken advantage of. At first, I started to isolate, a bad behavior I have always fallen back on.

I shared at an AA meeting about being aware of my behavior, and others shared about taking contrary action. I didn’t feel like going out and taking my kids to the pool, but I did anyway. I didn’t feel like calling someone who hurt my feelings, but I did anyway. I didn’t feel like sharing my insecurities with a trusted friends, but I did anyway. Because I did all of this, I began to heal.

I didn’t feel so angry and hurt anymore, sharing my feelings took the power out of it. I climbed out of my isolation and have felt much better about myself.

A while ago, I would have turned to alcohol to make me feel better, even though drinking would have caused me much more pain. I’m learning that procrastination can take me out of my sobriety. If I don’t take action, I’m moving backwards. I start engaging in my old, familiar, self-destructive ways.

Before I got sober it would have taken months for me to come out of my isolation. Taking action is so much better. I feel happiness and joy in my life instead of pain and resentment. If you are struggling with substance abuse, checking into our Florida based recovery facility is the most important action you can take. Our qualified staff will help you achieve a long-term clean and sober life.

Don’t Quit Before The Miracle Happens

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Sometimes in AA meetings, we hear, “don’t quit before the miracle happens.” Entering a life of sobriety isn’t always going to be a walk in the park. It takes hard work, change, and discipline. It also takes a lot of courage, growing up, and learning how to make good choices. These skills take time to learn, but it’s well worth the effort.

Learning how to live a happy life free from addiction is a miracle, but it takes a little time to see the world through a new pair of eyes. We learn a lot of new information when we first become sober, so give it a while to sink in. It might not make sense right away, but that doesn’t mean it won’t click later. 

Change takes time and patience, and living a healthy life free from the chains of addiction is a wonderful change. Putting down the drink or drug is the first step towards a new life, but a new life won’t happen immediately. We have to work for it.

If you put time and real effort into your recovery, you will see the miracles come to fruition in your life. You will gain self-esteem, trust, peace, and independence.

Sometimes you might feel frustrated, and wonder why things are not improving in your life as quickly as you want them. When these feeling arise, don’t turn back to addiction. Think about all the reasons you became sober in the first place.

If you turn back to substance abuse, you will waste everything you are working hard to achieve. More problems will arise if you pick up drugs or alcohol. Health, legal, and relationship problems are a constant threat when you’re using.

It took about six months for me to start seeing improvement in my sober life. When I stopped drinking, my life didn’t click into place instantly, I had to work for it. I had to go to meetings, get a sponsor, work the steps, and start listening to people with more time in sobriety than I had. I needed to open my mind and my heart to the possibility that I didn’t have all the answers. When I put effort and love into myself and my program, miracles started to happen.

People started trusting me. My kids, spouse, and I were much happier. I was able to start my own business, and become an active member of my community. I was there when my family and friends needed me. I stopped beating myself up everyday, and learned how to deal with negative emotions in a constructive manner.

If you want your life to improve without the crutch of drugs or alcohol, our Florida based holistic treatment program is a wonderful place to start. We have specialized treatment plans designed to help each individual person. Our caring and professional staff will teach you the tools necessary to live a new healthy life free from addiction.

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